Emotional clutter represents the past that manifests in the present – past hurts, toxic relationships, memories and fears.
When two people come together, they meet at the surface level. Usually, both parties are attracted to the physical aspect and each other’s personalities and exciting conversation. They have a soul connection and are drawn to the body and logical mind but have not yet been acquainted with the emotional mind, the part that can make a relationship or cause a breakup. The emotional mind stores all our emotions, good and bad, including our unhealed emotional wounds!
The relationSHIP vehicle – think of two people deciding to go on a journey choosing a vehicle of their choice. They can only take a certain amount of luggage with them; otherwise, the vehicle will be overloaded and may struggle to stay the course of the journey.
That’s what happens when we bring too much emotional clutter from our past into our relationship.
Some of our emotional clutter may even be ancestral (which we will look at in another post).
How does emotional clutter impact the self and the couple?
Emotional clutter does not usually surface at the beginning of the relationship during the honeymoon phase. Usually, this happens when you are more invested in the relationship, opening up and letting your partner into the deeper parts of yourself. Something gets triggered in one person in the relationship; they may behave unrecognisably to their partner. They seem unreasonable, cold, distant or may behave needily.
When emotional pain is triggered, that person may go into a trance. They may be feeling emotional, transported back to the past whilst being physically present. They may start to accuse their partner of things that has nothing to do with them, or they may behave in a way that may cause their partner to act in a particular manner that reminds them of a person from their past. Their partner may feel like they are being punished for someone else’s actions. At this point, both parties are operating in different ‘time zones’ or speaking other languages. Communication is non-existent at this time.
If this happens regularly, it may cause problems in the relationship; it may even destroy it.
There are different ways to clear emotional pain. The most important thing is that the person who has not healed has to have insight and realise they have a problem, and they MUST be ready to let go of it and release it. Without self-awareness and a willingness to heal, things will only get worse. Even if the couple split up, the wound will follow them into the new relationship. They will keep running into the same problems with others until they heal the wound that keeps bleeding.
To defuse the problem, the person has to work on themselves spiritually, mentally, physically and most importantly, remove the emotional virus causing the issues.
You first have to go to the core of where these problems lie. You have to work from the root cause, not the symptoms. If you work on the presenting symptoms, you will need a repeat prescription for new symptoms.
If the cause is not unpacked and healed, the unprocessed emotions will grow and become toxic. This person will attract similar situations again and again. They may wonder why they keep having the same experiences with different people. They continue to attract the same emotional pain regardless of who they are dating, living with or married to.
You may be able to help yourself, or your situation may require professional help:
Acknowledge it, feel it and release it!
Journal your thoughts and feelings and work on what comes up
You may have to repeat this, don’t give up. You will start feeling better, lighter and more accessible. You owe it to yourself to travel light in this world. Do not go through life carrying a 7-piece luggage set of your painful past.
When you let go of what’s been hurting you, you become more loving to yourself and others. You can give from a deeper place, and you can enjoy life rather than being one of life’s victims.
A connection at the mental level between a couple will enhance their relationship. Both parties enjoy being together and have a similar outlook on life.
One of the attributes of a successful relationship is to fall in love with each other’s minds. When you have this built-in mutual respect for each other at the mental level and beyond, it builds trust and empowers the couple and the relationship. The couple is drawn to endless intellectual reflections enhanced by spiritual, emotional and physical attraction, but it is their shared love of mindblowing intellectual acrobats that keeps them coming back for more.
The Couple Bubble
When a couple has a strong logical and intuitive connection in their relationship, they are able to connect with each other’s inner voice, they finish each other’s sentences, they don’t have to spell things out. They have this inner knowing, they are in their own unique couple bubble. They are able to co-exist in a harmonious space oblivious of crowds, not paying attention to anyone else. When they are away from each other they crave nothing more than getting together for one of their scrumptious three-course logical adventures.
Having a powerful mental connection with your partner allows you to eliminate mental drama from your love life, the only drama you’ll want to explore is role-playing at the weekend.
You don’t have to be intellectual geniuses to enjoy the powerful mind connection in your relationship. The power is in having a shared mindset and similar core values. You don’t have to be a great conversationalist, but you will have great conversations because you are both coming from your heart. You both share the same long term goals, dreams and desires. Of course, you have your own personal goals which only enhances the mental rapport you both enjoy.
Cognitive proximity is important for relationship longevity, as it means there will be fewer conflicts. When your worldview is not aligned, having different values leads to couples growing apart due to not understanding each other’s mental language.
Couples who share a mind-to-mind rapport have the ability to remain caring and supportive friends long after the honeymoon phase is over because what brought them together remains intact, and becomes even more rewarding and fulfilling as they discover even more mental passions they have in common.
Relationships in the fifth dimension are nurturing, therapeutic, and long-term. Both spirits are evolving. They enable you to bring your best self to the connection, allowing you to be the gift you seek. Your soul family lineage includes your fifth-dimensional companion.
You have a biological family, but you also have a spiritual family that loves and accepts you for who you are. You don’t have to justify yourself, change who you are, or try to fit into someone else’s mould of who they think you should be; it’s a nurturing connection where you let each other be who you are.
There is no need to change yourself, no control, and no soul confinement in the fifth-dimensional connection paradise. This caring setting makes your soul feel at ease.
Relationships in the fifth dimensional vs. the third dimensional
In third-dimensional relationships, the sensation can range from honeymoon bliss to long-term misery. This isn’t because people are cruel; it’s because they haven’t been taught how relationships operate, that they begin on the spiritual plane and come with a wisdom guidebook that explains how to maintain, support, and nurture one another.
Egoic love is third-dimensional love; it’s all about (me) and nothing else (we)
Only the physical aspect of a couple can be seen, which is finite and changeable. Fifth-dimensional souls perceive themselves as powerful spiritual beings who are willing to give their all.
As the ego is self-conscious (not self-aware) and easily offended, ego contact on the third dimension is ephemeral and might go awry. If you and your partner are having problems, you may need to take some time apart to heal. A Relationship Coach or Spiritual Coach can support you in resolving the conflict between the ego and the soul/spirit.
The fifth-dimensional world’s Soul connection is quite different. At the soul level, they’re in sync. Between them, there is a spiritual connection.
They may feel like two bodies sharing one soul, so they are continually thinking about what they can give to their significant other rather than what they can do for themselves. This is referred to be a spiritual connection, in which two people share a common soul experience rather than emotional addiction between two egos hiding behind numerous masks.
Fifth Dimensional Relationships are imaginative, always thinking outside the box, and in command of their human minds. They are completely free to express themselves fully from the soul, as the mind does not come in the way. They are not afraid to speak their truth in love, and since they are connected on a higher frequency, what they say can be received in a way that is both rewarding and nutritious for the soul.
Fifth-dimensional love is all about loving the other as much as you love yourself, but you must first learn to love yourself completely.
Everything else falls into place when you start working from the spiritual realm. You must lay a solid foundation for a loving connection that will last a lifetime. A healthy connection is formed by two complete people.
You’ll stop attracting third-dimensional connections that trigger you and instead start attracting partnerships that enrich your mind, body, and soul. You’ll feel a new intimacy arise between you that you’ve always wanted but never felt in your old third-dimensional relationship structure.
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